There are times in life where you just have to say, “I’m done.” I’m sure we have all faced hitting a brick wall a time or two. I have hit the brick wall. This isn’t about Christmas or the busyness of the season this is about life in general. It has been a hard Fall. It started with my own fall in a pothole, followed by Hubs unexpectedly going in the hospital with cellulitis, to going back into the hospital for his hip replacement and us both going to physical therapy. Thankfully, I was released on Friday, but Hubs is still in the process.
The week of Thanksgiving I ended up with a nasty bug and felt miserable on Thanksgiving Day. I took some cold medication which had an adverse reaction and had to lay down while cooking Thanksgiving dinner. I am thankful for my family who stepped in and finished dinner while I slept off the effects of the medication.
We have had two house renovation projects completed in the past two weeks which involved tearing our home up twice. Once for some new flooring which needed to be replaced as a result of water leaking into the floor from the outside and creating mold. The other reason was that our furnace is twenty-nine years old and it’s efficiency is zilch!
I’m also taking a pretty intense marketing class for my book launch. School means class time, homework and a ton of research all while keeping up with cleaning our home, grocery shopping, driving Hubs to doctor appointments and to work.
This past weekend was our Women’s Ministry Outreach event. I’ve been working on this event since last July. I serve with an amazing team of women, but it was a long week of final details, last minute changes, and fiery darts from an enemy who refuses to admit he is defeated.
Please hear me when I say I’m not complaining. I’m just tired. We ALL get tired. However, admitting we are tired seems taboo in our society. I’m here to tell you it is okay to say you are tired. There is no judgment on your abilities as a woman here. As women, we juggle many different plates and trying to keep those plates from falling is tiring. When was the last time you gave yourself a break? No matter what stage of life you are in there are always obligations we face with on a daily basis.
Recently, I was going through a journal I wrote in a few years ago and reminded myself that I needed to take my advice AGAIN. I wrote these four little phrases in a period of life that was filled with chaos because I was moving, starting a new job and faced with being a single parent for the first time.
•Watch What You Eat before it Eats You!
When I’m tired, the first thing to go is my healthier eating habits. Why? Because eating on the go seems to save time, but in the long run, it ends up costing me way (weigh) more. The best solution I have found is to have a plan and stick to it. I have learned there are foods I need to stay away from because they trigger my urge to throw caution to the wind. This is my reason no Archway Cashew Nougats can go into my cart or come into my home. (Just keeping it real!)
•Exercising Your Mind is as Important as Exercising Your Body!
It is important to keep your mind as active as your body. We need to have a keen sense of awareness of what our body, mind, and soul are telling us in order to take care of it. Our brain may not be muscle, but we need to keep it active like our bodies. Having a clear mind helps us to maintain stability in all areas of our lives. Physical exercise releases endorphins which make us happy and relieves stress. The last thing I want to do when I’m tired is go to the gym, so I don’t. I opt for longer walks from parking lots or put on an app from my phone or Roku. This is a huge timesaver because I don’t have to drive anywhere. Exercising also helps you to rest better. I have never got to the end of my workout and thought I wish I hadn’t done it. I always feel better knowing I did something good for my mind and my body.
•Don’t Say Anything You Wouldn’t Want Someone to Say to You or About You
When I am tired, I lose my filter. Although sarcasm is my first language, it is not flattering when I am tired. Somehow, it is like another person has taken over my tongue! There are things I have said I wish I could reel them back into my mouth, but I can’t. This little rule has helped me on more than one occasion and probably has saved my marriage and some precious friendships.
•Sleep is Mandatory
Sleep deprivation can cause elevated blood pressure levels, increase to illnesses and cause weight gain to name a few of the results from the lack of sleep. It puts us at a higher risk for accidents and can affect our metabolic system too. Set a time and go to bed. Don’t forget to start unwinding about an hour before you go to sleep. Turning off the computer, your phone, and other distractions helps your body to know it is time to rest. If you find yourself tired during the day and have the opportunity, take a nap. Naps are not indulgent; they are healthy #WednesdayWisdom Share on XNaps are not indulgent they are healthy. Twenty minutes of sleep is a great motivator when you are in a crunch period and provide some necessary relief.
Being tired is more than a physical issue. There are important reasons why we need to rest, refresh and renew. It is crucial to our well-being, and we can’t afford to neglect this area of our lives. If rest was so important that God would create a Sabbath and take one for Himself, it is equally important to take our Sabbath. Rest in Him!
Andrea says
let me add one thing – make sure you pray BEFORE you go to sleep every night!
Sheila Rhodes says
Hi, Andrea!
Best Comment Ever! You are right..prayer works!
Jazz says
Thanks for sharing, Sheila! I 100% agree with you and try not to let people make me feel guilty for getting the sleep I need.
Mamaguru says
I agree that sleep is vital! I just can’t nap though, so night time sleep is super important and i protect it as best I can.
Sheila Rhodes says
Hi! It is so important for your health! Nap when you can 🙂
Kristi says
I have napped several times lately and it has been refreshing. Normally, I wouldn’t allow it but man, it has sure helped!
Sheila Rhodes says
Kristi~ A power nap is a wonderful thing to refresh! It is a busy time of year and we need our energy. Blessings to you!
Peggy says
Right on girlfriend! Rest! Love you 😘
Sheila Rhodes says
We love our naps 🙂 Love you too! Give adorable EJ a hug from me!
Terri says
I do not have a good sleep schedule at all. I need to nap often
Sheila Rhodes says
Terri,
My schedule isn’t the best either. Although, I am making my best effort to try. However, I love a good nap and that can refresh me like no other 🙂
Tara says
I really can’t hold my eyes open sometimes in the afternoons. I think my body is trying to tell me something and I try to listen!
Sheila Rhodes says
Yes Tara! It is telling you to take a nap! 🙂
Gloryanna says
Sleep is such a must for me. If I operate on low sleep, watch out. This was a huge challenge for me right after I had my first son!
Sheila Rhodes says
Gloryanna,
I am the same way. If I don’t get enough sleep my emotions are all over the place! Now, I pray myself to sleep and what a blessing it has been.
Toni Ryan says
Wow Sheila, you and Dave certainly have had a stress filled Fall! Rest, rest, rest! Then have some much needed Christmas cheer!
Love you!
Sheila Rhodes says
My sweet Toni~
It has been a rough one, but God prevails and is providing strength in ways I didn’t know existed! Love you too my friend and May His Joy bring you peace in His presence!
Kay says
These are great reminders…it’s not fun to live life while lacking good sleep!
Sheila Rhodes says
Hi Kay!
You are so right about that! This is why we need HIS Divine Presence 🙂 Many Blessings to You!
April says
This is such sound advice. I am convinced that the lack of sleep is the root of most of the ailments that face people today. Great post!
Sheila Rhodes says
I agree April! Lack of sleep has effects on all aspects of life from driving to parenting! Who can look good in such cute clothes when they are tired? 🙂 Love your fashion style!
Tamara says
Thank you so much for this. I needed it so much! You are a blessing!
Sheila Rhodes says
Tamara~
YOU are a blessing! Take time to enjoy the season in your beautiful home. Love on that girl of yours! Love you too!
andrea says
Funny you should say that – I did not sleep well last night – and I think I know why
Sheila Rhodes says
Andrea,
You have had alot going on in the past few months and many things to think about. Aren’t we glad God gives us rest? Praying for you!