Last week I began the series, “Heart of the Matter”, tackling the sensitive issue of dealing with a family member or friend who struggles with mental illness. Sometimes in life God calls us to carry a weight we think is too heavy, but the fact is, God is calling us to do the difficult thing and it isn’t always popular. Creating awareness is crucial if we are to help and encourage people who live and deal with mental illness on a daily basis.
It would be great to think we never have to deal with heart breaking issues, but that’s not realistic. How do I know that? The scriptures are full of illustrations from the lives of believers who were just like us who were called to do tough things. Jesus and his disciples are great examples of those who dealt with people who had challenging physical, emotional and spiritual issues. These were people who were blind, lame, had leprosy and were demon possessed.
Why as Christ followers do we think our responsibility to help people God has placed in our lives, ends because of an illness we don’t understand? The disciples were ordinary people like you and I who were not professionally trained to deal with or heal these issues. They used their faith and believed in what Jesus asked them to do even if it didn’t make sense to them, because Jesus taught them that to love others was to love Him.
There were churches who would not allow my brother to attend because they said he was disruptive. Yes, he would yell out on occasion for Jesus to help him. He would cry and rebuke the voice which was tormenting him. He would sing above the rest because he was drowning out the voices, but the songs he sang were ones he wrote for Jesus. He clung to his Bible and knew more scripture than some preachers I knew. Even in his darkest hours, we were shown glimpses of God holding onto him.
Why do people in the church feel they are entitled to be comfortable? When was Jesus ever comfortable in ministry? Isn’t the church supposed to be the place where you can come as you are and be accepted as you are? The church isn’t a country club, but a hospital for the sick, hurting and lonely. I’ve been to some charismatic churches which were far livelier than my brother ever was. I wish I could say churches don’t know what to do, but I can’t because if a church believes the Bible, they hold the answers in their hands.
The next time someone comes to your church that may seem different than everyone else, embrace them with the love of Christ. Don’t turn your back on them or refuse to make eye contact. Just say “Hello” and welcome them in. Treat them with the same love Jesus would. Get to know their heart. The church exists because there are broken people who need hope and a Savior.
Would you think of abandoning a person with cancer or another physical ailment? If a handicapped person entered your church doors, would you tell them you couldn’t accommodate them? How would you feel if it were you or your family that was turned away when they needed love the most because people knew your “story”? Did you ever think maybe Jesus already knew your story and this is why God brought them to your church? Maybe God needed to disrupt your comfort and remind you of the time you first received unconditional love and grace. Maybe He wanted to give you a reminder of why the church exists.
Anyone can claim ignorance in dealing with this issue, but the fact remains each of us have a responsibility to love everyone….even those who are different from us. Jesus loved those to whom no one else would give the time of day. He touched them with love, compassion and empathy no matter what their story was.
I am thankful for the churches who do understand the role Jesus has asked them to fulfill. In a community where acceptance and love are shown and everyone feels welcomed and valued, the true message of God’s love prevails.
When God’s love and acceptance triumph, it can turn lives around to bring God honor in glorious ways. God knew one day that young man would be a worship leader in a church and continue to write, sing and serve Him in amazing ways.
Hannelore Leviston says
This is a topic that’s close to my heart… Take care! Exactly where are your contact details though?
Sheila Rhodes says
Hi Hannah~ We have added a Contact Me. There was an envelope to e-mail me, but it is difficult to see. I hope this helps and thanks for stopping by!
Lisa Morris says
Yes, Sheila, we were never called to be comfortable but to love unconditionally! Thanks for sharing!
Sheila Rhodes says
Hi Lisa, It is a hard concept, but one we must learn to do if we say we are Christ followers. I am thankful for His unconditional love for all of us! Thank you for stopping by!
Tammy Glass says
I wonder how many times I can manage to say Amen in this reply space? Love first, Love more!!
Sheila Rhodes says
Tammy, Thank You for your love and encouragement! I appreciate every reply you take the time to write. It confirms in my heart, what God is speaking. Blessings to you!
Clare Speer says
Such a wonderful word on judgment “in the church” – it is truly a day by day learning experience…. but we are all sinners – NOT perfect or we would already be in heaven!!!!! The church needs to open up its arms to all in need – no matter what their background or situation! Great reminder of how we should love like Jesus loved!
Sheila Rhodes says
Clare~ Thank You for sharing your heart when we can become honest about our feelings the enemy can’t hold any power over us and healing can take place.
Toni Ryan says
Preach it sister!! Well said!!
Many, many people need to read this. Not only for church, but anywhere we go. We all need to learn to have more understanding.
Sheila Rhodes says
You are always such an encouragement to my soul. Always grateful for your feedback 🙂
Brittany says
Such a great post! Thanks for sharing!
Sheila Rhodes says
Thanks for reading!
Samantha Lee-Wiraatmaja says
A great reminder that we need to love as Jesus loved, and see others through His eyes.
Sheila Rhodes says
Hi Samantha! It is true! We can’t pick and choose who we are going to love. I’m glad Jesus didn’t do that otherwise I’m not sure if he would have picked me. 🙂
Marla says
I think it is important to bring awareness to the issue of mental illness including proper diagnosis and treatment.
Sheila Rhodes says
I agree Marla! It is much easier to get a diagnosis, but the resources are dwindling as a result of government cutting funding and closing centers which help those who do struggle.